I struggled with this throughout my whole life, both in my personal and professional realm. The main reason is because I upheld a high standard and expectation in my relationships with people, be it with family, friends, colleagues, professional advisors, contractors and so on. Whenever, they did not meet my expectations, I took a very black and white approach, which was to totally disconnect from them (except for family) while holding on the baggage of disappointment, frustration or anger. Between my late 20s until now, I believe that I improved significantly in this facet of my life. I essentially adopted a new approach as outlined below;
-Give people 20% buffer (to make error, mistake, time allowance), as they may not meet your expectation all the time, much less exceed it-
You see, the thing is, all people have their own stress and challenges in life. This is to say, we're not always at our best version of ourselves. Being aware of this, I believe it is important to factor this in or account for it when dealing with people. As long as they are effective, responsible, and accountable 80% of the time- this is satisfactory. Nobody is perfect, and just as people have shown grace when I may not be at my best, I too need to be graceful back to others. This approach has proven to make my life filled with more happiness rather than filled with burdens and stress.
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